Here’s a first for you! Today, my guest post comes from…. a man!!
The majority of my readers are women, and so I want to have women’s voices encouraging and challenging you. There is much to be learned from a wise woman! But, wisdom also tells me that there is MUCH to learn from a man! God designed man and woman to need one another. We would be wise today, to put our listening ears (or, eyes, in this case) on and take into consideration what Pastor Dan Krebs has to say! Today he gives us a male perspective on how to encourage our husbands along their spiritual journey. It can be common for women to be more enthusiastic, involved and disciplined when it comes to their Christian walk and church attendance. Studies show that the typical US congregation draws 61% adult females and 39% adult males. That’s about thirteen million more women than men going to church! And, perhaps the church is partly to blame for that (stats and further info regarding men and church here.) But, God has appointed men to be the heads of their household spiritually. That is a high calling and a difficult task. There are many ways that we, as our husband’s closest ally, can empower him and spur him on. Below, Pastor Dan has four practical and effective ways to support him in his journey. Listen up, ladies! And, after you digest this entry, scroll down to grab the mouthwatering recipe for German Rouladen that Pastor Dan’s wife is passing on for you to digest! Thank you, Lenise! You may also want to click here to check out Pastor Dan’s new book, “The Beauty of Jesus Revealed in the Feasts”, written along side New York Times best selling author Darlene Schacht, the “Time Warp Wife“. What a dynamic duo! This is a must read!
4 ways to Encourage Your Husband on His Spiritual Journey
Despite what our secular culture tries to tell us, God has made men and women uniquely different and given an incredible role to each in keeping a family unit running smoothly.
In Ephesians 5:24 Paul writes; “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. “
This is one of those scriptures that has been abused and twisted by male chauvinists and women’s liberation groups for generations. Men quoting this scripture and saying that their wife was created to be his personal slave and that she should never question his authority because, “God says so!“ Or you have the women who say that the Bible was written by a bunch of egotistical males whose aim in these verses was to keep women under submission.
Either perspective is the furthest thing from the truth, and if you study Ephesians further you quickly discover that Paul is teaching an incredible truth of how a Christ centered marriage is to work.
In the very next verse, Paul brings clarification to the husbands role when he says, ``Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.“
For a man, I don`t think that there has ever been given by God any greater responsibly then what we read here in Ephesians 5:25. We have been called to love our wives in the same manner that Jesus loves his bride the church. How much did Jesus love his bride? I think we know the answer to that. He loved her before she loved him. He died for her before she could appreciate and fully understand the ramifications of his sacrifice and He forgave even when we didn’t deserve his forgiveness.
As men, we have been called to an incredibly high order. And this is to lead our families as spiritual leaders and protect and guide our spouses and children in the ways of the Lord.
And so women, this is where you come in. As men we need your help. We can’t do this on our own. Over my 26 years of ministry, I have met many women at the church altar who came forward for prayer for their husbands. The majority of them would express frustrations towards their spouse such as, “He so lazy,” “He doesn’t want to come to church, or, “I feel like I’m carrying all the parental responsibilities.” Like any responsible Pastor, I would pray for them and encourage them, but in the end often I would ask them, “What are you doing to change your situation?” Many times they would look at me puzzled as if to say, “What do I have to do? He’s the one with the issues!” Truth is, there are many things a wife can do to help her husband reach his greatest potential as spiritual leader and here they are
1. Pray for them: This may sound like an obvious request, but the truth is that this is the most powerful tool. Jesus says in John 6:44; “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them, and I will raise them up at the last day.”
Face it, God loves your husband more than you will ever and therefore it’s his deepest desire to see him come closer to the Lord. Therefore it is your responsibility to partner with the Lord to direct the Holy Spirit to change your spouse’s behavior.
May I also add here that you need to be careful that you pray with the right motives. If you are praying for your husband with the goal in mind that “your” life will be easier, than you may be praying from the wrong perspective. Your prayer needs to be that that God begins to work on our spouse’s heart and that the Holy Spirit will begin to convict him. In doing so, understand when we pray like this, you may find that your life might begin to get a bit more miserable for a while before it gets better. Reason being, when God begins to convict someone, they many times respond negatively out of conviction, and when this begins to take place it can be painful for those closest to them.
Don’t let this stop you from continually praying for your spouse. God is working on their heart, and he’s using your prayers to help make this happen.
2. Be patient with their progress
Just like a child learning to walk, progress takes time. Your husband’s personal relationship with the Lord is just that…. “personal.” Allow the Lord to work on his heart at his pace and not yours. You may find that there are periods of time you want to say like Jesus did to the disciples in Matthew 15:16 “Are you still so dull,” but you’re not Jesus and your responsibility in regards to your husband’s progress is to trust that the progress is taking place and that growth is happening.
3. Praise his accomplishment
Again, just like a child making their first steps, praise your husband for the spiritual steps he IS making. Far too many times we can focus on the miles that still have to be traveled rather than celebrating the journey that has been run so far. When we encourage progress, (even when you may feel it’s too small to even mention), praising them for the smallest spiritual achievements can go a long way in seeing further growth.
4. Visualize the eventual victory
When you are praying for your husband, always try to pray from God’s visual point and not your own, asking the Lord to see your husband through God’s eyes. When we do, the Lord will show us how he sees our loved one. God saw our potential long before we saw our own, and therefore he sees where your husbands spiritual journey will ultimately take him long before we can even imagine it. In Luke 22, we find Jesus praying for his disciples. In verse 32 he says about Peter; But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.” Here we can see that Jesus saw the big picture. Before Peter denied Jesus, Jesus is praying for Peters faith not to give up. And then he says, “when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.” In other words he is saying, I have faith that when you come to your senses, “encourage the other disciples.” Jesus saw past Peters future failures and visualized that he would not only recover but also lead the others.
Visualize your husband as the Spiritual leader that he will become and not the person he may be right now. Pray thankfully for who your spouse is going to be and the time will come when your prayers will become celebrations as who he has become!
Pastor Dan is a family man. He is a father of three teenagers, and the husband to his college sweetheart Lenise who he has been married to for over 25 years. Dan has Pastored different ministries across Canada for over 26 years and currently lives in Winnipeg where he is the Lead Pastor of Trulife Ministries. A pioneer church work that just recently celebrated it`s one year anniversary! Dan has always had a passion for ministry. Over the years he has been in involved in missions work both here in Canada as well as oversees. That is why Trulife Ministies even exists. To be a catalyst in reaching our local and international communities with the life changing message of Jesus Christ. Over the years he has taken different ministry teams up North; Central America and Africa! Dan has also made Central America a part of his life. He has served the local community in Nicaragua by taking several teams to build a church and helping complete the facility. Pastor Dan looks forward to where the Lord is going to lead his ministry and stands upon the word in Proverbs 16:9 that tells us that; `A man’s heart plans his course, but the LORD directs his steps.
Dans Favorite Recipe
8 slices inside Round Rouladen Slices
¼ Cup Dijon Mustard
8 Slices Bacon (Uncooked)
1-2 Onions sliced
8-12 Sweet baby dill Pickles
Salt & Pepper to taste
Lightly spread mustard on each slice of steak; sprinkle with salt and pepper. Place 1 bacon strip and a few onion wedges on each slice; Baby dill Pickles; roll up & secure with toothpicks.(Not flavoured)
In a large skillet, brown beef in oil until no longer pink; drain. Transfer to 9×13 Pyrex dish. Preheat Oven 350 & bake for 1-1/2 hours or until meat is tender.
Remove meat and keep warm.
To make gravy Combine flour and water until smooth; gradually stir into broth. Bring to a boil, stirring constantly until thickened and bubbly. Remove toothpicks. Return beef to gravy; heat through. Sprinkle with parsley if desired.
Serve with Potatoes & Veggies. Enjoy!